Every teenager with unstable hormones is doing it...commonly known as emo-ing...its almost a ritual,a rite of tradition that is performed by teens from the age of 13(earliest) and 20(late teens)...anyone still frequently emo-ing after the age of 21....note the word FREQUENTLY...is a lil messed up in the head..but for us teens..its more or less a right..but have we ever wondered why we like to do it? is there a purpose for it?does it make our life more interesting?
People emo for different reasons....relationships being among the top reasons....some emo because of relationships that could have been, some emo coz of relationships that were...some emo becoz of relationships that they are trying to make happen...
And yet some emo coz of problems...with studies,family,personal life, you name it they have it...
And the stranger still..emo becoz they just like to be emo-fied...these people are....emotional to say the least....
However, it is undeniable that we as teenagers all go through this stage of emo-ness....we wouldn't be teens if we don't have any emo phases...majority of it is because we are unconsciously trying to find a way that we fit into society..to find our true path of life and the place in the huge puzzle that we belong..so to speak...and in doing that we most often make mistakes,be it in decisions or relationships...thus..the emo-ness....another major part is hormones...but that is just too much biological jargon that I shall not speak much of it...
So, question is...do we as teenagers enjoy being emotional? I personally think the honest answer to that question is YES....we enjoy being emotional..to just sit down in a quiet corner and listen to songs that relate to our feelings....which are.....emo songs....I guess its one of the most common ways we use to pass time...somehow when you're emo-ing..time seems to fly..well..for some at least...some others can be emo for like...ever....they just don't seem to want to snap out of it..either that or they are so lost in emotional irrationality that they are trapped there...and will most probably need a slight knock with a sledgehammer to get them back to their senses....
But I guess that's why teenagers also have a load of friends..friends who can emo with you...who can understand why you emo...and even some who will wake you up when they have felt that you have been emo-ing way too much...although the last particular breed of friends are dying out...most of them actually join you in your emo-fying...(ever notice how some people start crying just because they see their friends cry?you get my point)..so you both form a depressed party...oh joy...a straightforward case of the blind leading the blind? probably so...
However,it is also acceptable to be emotional..even the most rational teen cannot control his/her emotions...and at one point or other, those blooming emotions brought on by something called puberty is bound to affect life in one way or other...so teenagers DO have the rights to be emo...its more like a way of nature....
"I cannot control my emotions" is the reply most teens give when questioned about why they are so emo over petty matters like:
1.No girlfriend/boyfriend all my life
2.I like that girl/guy, but he/she don't like me
3.I got problems with myself/family/friends
4.My boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't care about me(this assumption is usually drawn just becoz the bf/gf missed ONE date or was too tired to return a call or sms)
True, it is hard to control your emotions...after all...we are born human..and are equal parts emotional as rational...although for some people..its about 70/30 in favour of emotions....however, we often miss out on one important point, that while we cannot control our emotions, neither should we let our emotions CONTROL US....we are young adults, and we want society to acknowledge us and treat us as such...but before they can discard their view of us as children, we must first show them that we are no longer childish...we cannot expect society to treat us with the respect adults require..if we ourselves are acting like spoilt brats, whining and crying over small issues, and basically living life in a permanent emo-state...with our eyes fixed on the ground below us that we miss out on all the good things in life...Our emotions are a large part of us, but it is not EVERYTHING about us...we are still governed and ruled by our principles, rational thoughts, and decisions..and as adults we are expected to make those decisions with careful thinking...and that requires rationality..something we cannot have when we are emo-fying ourselves away...
So, while it is normal to be emotional for teens...we must also set boundaries, to know when is the right time, and when is the time when being emo won't help a single bit, and that the time for feeling like a sad,sorry soul is long past....when we carry on being emotional about the past, we forget to enjoy our present, and we will lose sight of our future, a future that is brimming with better opportunities and brighter chances....wake up if you want people to stop treating you like kids...and don't expect anybody to treat you like an adult if you feel that you are alright to be emo all the time...
That being said however,it is alright to spend some time being emotional...after all...emo doesn't necessarily mean bad..you can be totally in love,swept of your feet..and its also called emo...or you can be ecstatic...happy for any reason, and it is also referred to as being emo...or, (the most common one), you can be in the mood for love...and it is also referred to as emo....mind you..you are not in love..you are just in the mood for it...how you ask? well..if you are listening to love songs for no apparent reason, enjoying the words...and singing along as loudly as you can..without giving a hoot as to how out of tune your singing can be...then my friend, you are in the mood for love...it is pleasurable...but never ever let it get in the way of doing what you have to do...other stuff are more important in life than being emotional...so emo-fy yourselves silly,in a healthy way such as this..but only when you have some free time eh? ;)
So I guess that being emo is a teen thing..but there are 2 types of emo..make sure you get invovled in the right type..the healthy type..and don't go walking around thinking the whole world owes you something..coz it definitely doesn't...get over yourself if you are feeling negatively emo...it does you no good...and this world doesn't revolve around you...you are just a part of it..but whether or not you are a good part,an important and contributing part or a part which others would be happy to be rid off..is all up to you....
In truth, I have been emo these few days...hehe...in the love mood..I know...weird huh...haha..rest assured...for my friends who are girls and are reading this post..I'm not about to ask you out for a date or to ask you to be my life partner..haha...but its been fun... :)
I shall share some of the emo love/non-love songs I've been listening to:
1.Could It Be-Christy Carlson Romano(awesome girl)
2.Why Don't You Kiss Her?-Jesse McCartney(awesome guy)
3.Because You Live-Jesse McCartney
4.Love Will Find A Way-Disney-The Lion King II(awesome song/movie)
5.My Funny Friend And Me-Sting-Emperor's New Groove(awesome song/movie)
6.On My Way-Brother Bear-Phil Collins(awesome singer/song)
7.Look Through My Eyes-Phil Collins(you should really listen to this)
8.You'll Be In My Heart-Phil Collins(this too)
9.At The Beginning-Anastasia(Disney)-Richard Marx and Donna Lewis(awesome duet)
10.True To Your Heart-Mulan-98Degrees and Stevie Wonder
These 10 songs have been my companions these 2 days..haha....great songs...I know they're not famous..and not the most popular songs or singers....but hey..who cares?they're good..and that's all that matters :)
Take Care people, Don't be too emo!!!
God bless you all
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2. The difference between something good and something great is attention to detail.
3. Alleged impossibilities are opportunities for our capacities to be stretched.
4. We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.
5. We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.